Dhammy Kelly's Blog

Last week I was doing my grocery shopping at a local store. I was in a hurry because I had to get to work. I had purchased a package of sports drink and, when checking out, put it on the bottom of the cart. In my haste, I did not put it in my car when I emptied the cart. Later, I went back to the store and the cart was not there in the rack. One of the high school students that was retrieving carts came by and I asked if anyone had turned in the beverages. She said she did not notice but with a big smile said, "If you can wait, I will go in and check." A few minutes later, she came out with the beverages and said, "Here they are." I was very surprised someone had taken the time to turn them in. It may not have seemed like much and it was only a few dollars, but what a lift to know there are still honest, caring people out there

It was another dreary and gloomy day. I had come home from school, changed my clothes and gotten ready for work. I work at a local restaurant in town as a cashier, seater and busser. I went to work feeling down and out. And to make matters worse I was busing that evening. It's the same thing over and over again. Dealing with customers who complain and whine about their food, where they are sat and how the piece of pie that they are served is too big or too small. Little things like that tend annoy a lot of our employees but we all learn to deal with it. Some days it is annoying but you just get used to it I guess. I know I have. Three elderly ladies walked in and were sat at a booth by the windows. It happened to be the very spot near where I bus and keep the dirty dishes in the bins. I was busing since 5:00pm and we were quite busy. Trying to keep up with all the dirty tables, people leaving and coming in and servers running all over the house, it was crazy. But these elderly

Compliments of the season! My intention was to send a WONDERFUL GIFT wrapped & packaged, but tell me? How do I wrap God's Grace? How do I wrap God's Mercy? How do I wrap God's Favour? How do I wrap Blessings? How do I wrap God's Protection? Not to mention Divine Health and a sound Mind. All these and more, I wish in ten folds to you and your family. 🎄Wishing u Merry Christmas, and a happy New Year in advance.

…….Episode 17 Court Session “All rise!” the court clerk said as the judge walked up to the podium to take his seat as every one stood up to their feet, while i stood at the end of the courtroom, in the criminal box, together with Folake and the mysterious ‘baba’ who was also arrested by the police. “My lord, This is the case of Mr and Mrs Olaniyi against Miss Bewaji on the murder of their son Tunde” The clerk added, presenting the judge with a file. Then the court proceedings began. From the box where i stood, i looked at the faces of everyone present in the room. I saw the disappointed faces of my parents, although not disappointed that i might or might not have killed him which they knew i didn’t kill him, i couldn’t even hurt a fly, their disappointment was on the ill-luck that had befallen me and my inability to heed to their advise after my first experience with my boyfriend. Turning around again, i saw the face of my best friend Temi, and that of my roommate Tobi, all lookin

……Episode 16 We arrived at Folake’s residence only to be told by her room-mate that she’s out of town. “When did she leave town?” Detective David questioned Sade, Folake’s roommate. “She left this afternoon, saying there was something very important she needed to do back in her village” Sade responded, looking puzzled. “Do you have her number?” asked the detective. “Yes sir, but its been switched off since she left” ” Do you have any idea of what she went there for?” ” I don’t know for sure sir, but i think she mentioned going to somewhere in Ogun State”. ” Hmmn, and for what reasons do you think she left for?” Detective David continued throwing questions at her. ” That, i don’t have any clue of sir.” “Okay, thank you very much young lady, we would leave for now, but advice, you don’t leave town, just in case we need any information from you”. “Okay sir, thank you very much” Sade said as she went back into her room. Detective David led me towards the awaiting police van an

…..Episode 15 “Shawn sir!!” Sergeant Philip stood at attention, stamping his foot on the floor and raising his right hand to his forehead. ” Here is the first suspect you ordered me to bring sir!!” “Good, very Good” the scary looking AIG commended, slightly hitting his table with one hand. “Young woman, do you know why you were brought here?” The AIG asked. “No sir, am really lost and confused sir” I replied him shakily and uncertain. “What do you know about the death of a certain boy called Tunde?” The scary looking officer asked, fixing a strange gaze at me which almost made me run mad. I turned around, scanning the faces of everybody present in the room. They seemed all too serious and was expecting my response. “I swear to God sir, I know nothing of it sir.” I replied him with while he stared at me cold eyes. “Young woman, our inside mouths tell us that you visited him the eve of that night before he was poisoned, how true is that?” he asked. I was about speaking out when

Yesterday, my newborn intensive care ward was busy. My round finished at 1.15 pm, but then there were parents. Their baby was very sick. My stomach called me to go for lunch first but my heart called me to talk to the parents first. I managed to listen to and follow my heart. We are never sure but from the facial expressions of the parents at the beginning and at the end of counseling sessions, we can have a decent guess on how effective the session was. This time the faces of both parents had changed from extremely worried to at least a bit of relief and acceptance. Our guaranteeing that whatever happens, we will do the very best we can makes a change quite often. It was their first child and, just imagining, this must have been perhaps one of the very most stressful situations they have encountered in their lives. They expected a healthy baby to be held, in mom's sweet arms but there he was, in the incubator, connected to so much of equipment.  When I reflec

Challenges seem to come equally frequent to good people as to bad people. True. Some people feel that good people even get more challenges. May be true, may be wrong. Looks like the bad guys can enjoy good health as much as the good ones. True. The big difference shows when it comes to peace of mind. Bad guys do not have as much peace of mind as good ones. Vice destroys / deprives us of peace of mind Virtue generates it We were all made to survive. Our body, our mind, our senses Challenges in life do not depend on vice or virtue But on top of that we were made human And that little extra does make a big difference If we manage to be humane Peace of mind will be ours. Peace of mind may be among the biggest treasures we can gather here on earth. 

…..Episode 14 “I still can’t believe Tunde’s gone for real and never to return, as in everything happened so fast” i muttered, landing on my bed when we got home from the hospital. “Well, that’s life for you, I think everything happens for a reason, it’s just a matter of time before we bring to justice whoever was behind his killing” Tobi said, taking her seat on the leather couch. “May God strike down that Folake of a girl, there’s no doubts she killed Tunde for her selfish reasons” Temi also added, taking a seat besides Tobi on the couch. “Honestly, i don’t know what to think again, but i have a strong feeling something is not just right here” I began. “What do you mean by that? are you saying you don’t know that it was Folake that killed Tunde?” Temi asked almost immediately. “I dont know for sure but—” Just then, a knock was heard at the door. “Who’s there?” Tobi asked, as we all turned and looked to the door. “Please open up, it’s the Police” The voice said calmly. We

…..Episode 13 I kept everything behind me as i tried concentrating on the lectures being taught in the workshop. The day passed almost uneventful due to the fact that the people who were present there weren’t really socially skilled, while i also kept to myself. We were lodged in an hotel to spend the night, and we were all given a room each, with instructions to wake up before 7am in order to meet up with the bus that would take us the event place. I later received a call from Temi, who wanted to know how i was faring and how the workshop seminar was going. “Hello Bewaji, how was your day?” Temi greeted. “Am fine dear” I quipped ” although it has been really hectic” I added. “Well, that’s nice to hear, i just called to say hi and to know how you’re faring” said Temi, in a caring tone. “Yea, thanks for your concern, everything is fine here, we’ll talk later when i comeback tomorrow, am really tired now so i need to rest” i assured Temi. We gisted for a little while before the

…..Episode 12 Temi could hear me sniffle and cry in the room, but she didn’t try to ask me any question. I was still in thoughts. ___________ “She cant keep the child, she just cant!!, our name?, our dignity?, our reputation? what would other people think of us? the shame?” Mum yelled with the top of her voice from their bedroom in a rather hot argument with Dad over my issue, while i listened with glee from the sitting room. “Look dear, what has happened has happened, no matter what she has done, i still love her as a father and wont in any way see her kill an innocent child, people can say whatever they want to say, but i believe that everything would end up all good.” Dad said calmly and softly, in an effort to convince Mom, who was insisting i aborted the pregnancy. I was filled with shame, guilt, and ignominy as i thought about the humiliation and embarrassment i let upon my parents. Their argument went on for quite a long time that i never knew when i slept off right ther

…..Episode 11 “Who got you pregnant?” Mum yelled but i said nothing, I just stood mute. “Who have you been having this ungodly act with?” Mum continued ranting with rage. “No one Ma” i denied, but before i knew it a hot slap came upon my face, while tears trickled down my cheeks as i bent my head facing the ground with quilt. I just thank God my dad had traveled for a business appointment and wasn’t in the house that moment otherwise, i would have been a dead person. “Am sorry ma, it wont happen again” i replied childishly, giving out myself to her little trick of getting me to start talking. “My ordeal with Daniel was nothing more than a desperate lady who is so much addicted to his boyfriend and doesn’t want to loose him, so she submitted to his craving and demand for the sake of love, but it had ended me into a big problem, A problem that might leave an unimaginable scar on my life.” i thought to myself while still standing in front of Mum who stood mute me. “I want to know

I see people sitting there quietly. I see a girl who doesn’t really talk to anybody. I go over to her and say “hi”. She doesn’t respond at first but then she starts to talk back to me. She says, “My name is Marilyn”. I say, “That is a very pretty name”. She said thank you to me and we were talking all during summer school. I then found out she enjoys school so much and that was why she was at summer school. Then I remembered when I went to summer school just for fun. I was so scared to get on the bus for summer school. It was the summer before seventh grade and everyone was older then me. (except the other 7th graders). I was so nervous. I never rode the school bus before and I had nobody to sit with on the bus. When I got there I recognized some kids from elementary but I didn't really talk to them. Angie my good friend from elementary was there. She was so glad to see me and so was I. We went to our first class and we met Airiel. She was the funniest girl. She always had a new

…….Episode 10 I hurriedly left his house with regrets while he trailed me, begging me not to leave but i made him know my mind was already made up and there was nothing he could do to change it. I arrived my apartment late in the night but only to find the door locked by Tobi who was already fast asleep. And I know fully well that no matter how hard anyone knocks, when Tobi sleeps, she is as good as dead, therefore sleeping in that house that night was totally ruled out, so i didn’t bother myself knocking, i left for Temi’s apartment instead. I arrived Temi’s house who opened the door almost immediately when i knocked but was really puzzled at why i was up so late at night. I needed to rest but i knew Temi won’t let me, with her voice like the buzzing of a bee, she bombarded me with different Jamb questions. The few i could answer made her ask me more and more questions. Interrogating me like an FBI agent, till i started regretting why I came to her room in the first place. “Biko

When I was a kid I didn't like to read. I didn't get a lot of accelerated readers point. When I was in 3rd grade I used to get in trouble that I didn’t read and I didn’t have enough points. When I was in 4th grade I wasn’t in the in the gate class for the first week and then after the first week the moved me up and pushed me because they knew I was smart. The first semester I didn’t read at all because I didn’t find a book that I was interested with, but then during winter break I picked up a book called The Series of Unfortunate Event. After a few pages I was obsessed with that book. I was reading and reading it because it was suspenseful. After winter break I took the test I got 9 out of 10. My 4th grade teacher was so happy with me because I was actually getting point and within one semester I read the whole series. I was on a race with my friend named Kelly to see who could finish the series faster. But it was a tie because we finished it on the same day. Then I started to

At the age of six I fell in love with art, in grade school art on Fridays was what I looked forward to each week. I remember making Christmas ornaments out of card board toilet paper rolls for the Christmas tree. All through school art was my main interest because there were no mistakes to be made, Art provided self esteem, love and a natural high like runners get. I loved staying up late drawing and listening to Johnny Cash. when doing Indian ink drawings, time stood still and I could see the ink filling the minute crevices in the paper. If that sounds like I was on drugs the answer is NO Drugs just a natural high. There was a love affair with certain brushes and pencils. In the late fifties my parents moved the family from a small town in Minn. to the big city of Seattle. No woods to explore so I would get up early in the morning and take my red wagon around to collect things that people placed on the curb for the garbage man to pick up, I found great treasures. At the age of twenty

…….Episode 9 I got to the street that was on the address Tunde sent me. I quickly searched for his house number and found it with ease. When i saw his house, i smiled to myself for no reason, walked to the door and waited for a reply. But i noticed it was locked from outside, which made me upset a bit. I soon heard his voice from inside beckoning on me to come through the back window. “What nonsense, this girl actually locked Tunde up in his house oh” I said to myself. “Hey Bewaji, i didn’t know you were serious about bringing the food, but anyways thanks so much” Tunde said smiling when i got to the window at the back of his house. “Imagine the nonsense!! I thought to myself again. So I have to talk to him through the window??. “Its nothing” i said to Tunde. “i believe its my fault that you’re locked up in here” i added with a frown. “No, not at all, you have no hand in this. I have myself to blame. I just don’t know what happens to me when Folake is around me, i tend to obey

……Episode 8 After our discussions,We finished our drinks, packed our bags and left the restaurant. I and Tobi got home really tired after dropping Temi at her own apartment. I was still disappointed at what she (Tobi) said in the restaurant,so i didn’t talk to her at all, neither did she utter any word to me. I laid on my bed, and pondered on what had happened today. The unexplainable force behind Tunde’s unwarranted compliance to directives from Folake, Her voracious Threats which were unfortunately confirmed by Peter. I was still in awe and fear at what Peter had said earlier on. Folake wasn’t someone to be joked with. My thoughts were interrupted by the vibration of my phone. I looked at the screen but saw that the number was unknown, i hesitated a bit before finally picking it up and answering the call. ” Hello Bewaji?” Came the voice from the other end, i instantly recognized the voice. It was Tunde! “Tunde!?!” i shouted with happiness, only God knows why. “Yea its me, T

……Episode 7 “Yes please?!, is anything the matter?” Tobi asked the guy when she saw that i was scared to speak out. ” Not really, my name is Peter a close friend of Tunde, he told me to pass a message to Bewaji” the boy replied. Seeing he wasn’t here with any bad intentions, i summoned the courage to speak out. ” Am Bewaji, and whats the message?” i asked him. “Tunde said he is really sorry for embarrassing you girls and apologized for what happened earlier in the morning, he also wants to assure you that the threats made my Folake are just Empty threats and nothing to be taken seriously” Peter responded . “But why isn’t he here to apologize, rather, he sent you?” i asked. “That’s the problem, he can’t come because that witch of a girl Folake, locked him up in his house” “WHAT!!!” I, Tobi And Temi, chorused together in shock. ” Yes, infact, that’s after she had beaten him up in the morning, ordering him not to go out of the house” “Wow, i can’t believe what am hearing, please

…….Episode 6 “So i just traveled home for a couple of days, and you’ve already started messing around with cheap girls ehn?” Folake ranted at Tunde . Her statement really infuriated I and Tobi, ” I beg your pardon, who are you referring to as Cheap Girls?” Tobi spoke out when she couldn’t bear the insults again. “You both of course, just take a look at them, chasing after other people’s boyfriend, Sluts!!” Folake continued in an insulting manner. “It is you that is the slut”, I and Folake replied her at the same time, already fuming with rage. Tunde just stood there, totally confused, he didn’t know whether to intervene or not. “Ehen!!, so you brought these low-lifes to insult me abi? Ehn Tunde, you have the guts to arrange with these sluts to insult me Tunde? When we get home, i will so beat youuu”, Folake yelled angrily stressing the “YOU” “Baby please, it’s not what you think, baby please calm down” Those were the only words Tunde could mutter amidst the whole season film tha

Thomas Edison tried two thousand different materials in search of a filament for the light bulb. When none worked satisfactorily, his assistant complained, “All our work is in vain. We have learned nothing, Not sure if we can use an electricity properly.” Edison replied very confidently, “Oh, we have come a long way and we have learned a lot. We know that there are two thousand elements which we cannot use to make a good light bulb.” Moral: We can also learn from our mistakes.

A kindergarten teacher had decided to let her class play a game. The teacher told each child in the class to bring along a plastic bag containing a few potatoes. Each potato will be given a name of a person that the child hates. So the number of potatoes that a child will put in his/her plastic bag will depend on the number of people he/she hates. So when the day came, every child brought some potatoes with the name of the people he/she hated. Some had 2 potatoes, some 3 while some up to 5 potatoes. The teacher then told the children to carry the potatoes in the plastic bag with them wherever they go for 1 week. Days after days passed, and the children started to complain due to the unpleasant smell let out by the rotten potatoes. Besides, those having 5 potatoes also had to carry heavier bags. After 1 week, the children were relieved because the game had finally ended. The teacher asked: “How did you feel while carrying the potatoes with you for 1 week?” The children let out thei

Happy people do a lot of things.  They spend time expressing gratitude, cultivating optimism, practicing kindness, nurturing loving relationships, committing to meaningful goals, savoring life’s little pleasures, and so on and so forth. But they NEVER… 1.  Mind other people’s business. Forget about what others are doing.  Stop looking at where they are and what they have.  Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you.  YOU are walking your own path.  Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight reel.  We listen to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves.  So stop the comparisons!  Ignore the distractions.  Listen to your own inner voice.  Mind your own business. Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day.  Don’t be scared to walk alone, and don’t be scared to enjoy it.  Don’t let anyone’s ign

…..Episode 5 “Let’s get a shower together, put on some nice music and do it in style.” Daniel said seductively then.…I was his slave for that day, as if i was eager for him to descend on me. I just wanted to satisfy him so as to protect any other lady from stealing my man. How foolish i was! I took his hand and we both climbed out of the shower and into the bedroom. There, i just leaped onto the bed and surrendered myself like an idiot, all in the sake of what we mostly describe as LOVE which isn’t anything other than the word called LUST. “Do what ever you want, Daniel, i love you with all my heart” i said, We both fell off from each other’s body as we took some rest after the whole incident. It was then i realized the repercussion of what was just done!! and funniest thing was that he never used a protection all through which i never even thought of till it was over. The memories still came back to me fresh, as i laid on my bed!. __________________ I was still in thoughts wh

…..Episode 4 I wasn’t really sure, i didn’t really know if it was a setup that Tunde planned, probably for me to get caught up in a fight and he’ll come save me, and i’ll thank him for being my hero. Or maybe it was a real fight, and he just decided to come help me out. “You dey craze” Tunde yelled out the bully who was swept off his feet. The Guy was taken aback with surprise from the kick from Tunde, but the way he reacted, i feared he wasn’t alone. He stood up just in time, dodging a blow from Tunde who was already raging in fury. Na season film be this oh! ” You no get shame, na woman you dey slap like that, which kind senseless human being you be” Tunde shouted at the bully, but rather than being sorry, he jerked Tunde by the collar, and started shouting “If Tunde knew who he was”?. Just as i feared, a couple of dangerous looking boys appeared from nowhere and before i knew it, they had given Tunde the beating of his life… Before i had doubts if the fight was real, But now,

In the shadow of the tree Of endless grace and amazing mercy Lies a magic acorn filled with gratitude Spouting fast into a giant oak of awe Exploding into a forest of kindness Filled with wonderful paths colored with love. Let us all get lost in this forest of gratitude Leaving behind and never return To the barren cities of greed.