Dhammy Kelly's Blog

A DREAM OF A MOTHER. Episode 2 Halima was the child nobody wanted their child to associate with. She was a Muslim, but she had gotten out of control of her parents. Her father was an Alhaji who was more concerned with making money than whether his daughter was walking in the path of Islam. Her mother had a big fabric shop in Ayegbaju International market, where she sold imported fabrics which she imported from Dubai and all around the world. So, Halima went out with aristocratic men, for her, it was not about the money, but about the domination of these men in bed, and the class. Halima was just 18, but she had the body of a grown woman with luscious hips and ample buttocks, her fair skin glowed and her eyes which were always coated with Kohl, held Nubian promises. Aside her physique, Halima had also aborted so many pregnancies, that girls her age could not have done. When Khadijat started crushing on Damilola, it was Halima she told. Halima advised her to go after Damilo...

A DREAM OF A MOTHER. Episode 1 He was running as fast as his legs could carry him, the house was just ahead. He could see the lights of the house, the curtains were drawn, and the inhabitants of the house were probably asleep, unaware of the terror about to be visited on them. He was able to get in front of the ivory painted gate now, and he began shouting on the top of his voice. “Help, Help, wake up” he yelled at the top of his voice. But a shot rang out, and he was still gazing at the lit balcony of the house, when he felt a pain rip through him, he held his throat as blood spurted out of it. Before he fell to the ground, he saw a young woman come out to the balcony, he wanted to warn her, but the darkness enveloped him, and the world blacked out… Twenty Years ago “ Subhanallah! What am I going to do now, my father will disown me” Khadijat said aloud as she looked at the food she had just eaten and thrown up in the toilet sink. For the past few days she had been throwing...

Sometimes I live on for days and days or perhaps even weeks without taking some time out to stop and think for myself: - What is really important in my life? - What is the most important thing, person, aim, activity? - How much time do I dedicate to these important things, persons, aims and activities? And then also thinking on what is really unimportant, and how much time do I spend on these things? When I do manage to make time for reflections of this kind, I am often amazed at how few time I spend for the really important things and how much time I spend for the less important things. I just spend an hour and a half, reading about and watching videos about world and local politics. Somehow the political jokes gave me smile, and when I read on how ridiculous some of the politicians behave, it gives me certain level of satisfaction, but at the same time it tends to upset me, to make me worried about things that completely out of my hands. But is that important for ...

OPENING MY WINGS At the very beginning i couldn't tell myself that i can do a particular thing , I thought even by trying i wont be able to do it but than after sometime i started trying new things like choosing new subjects , trying out different adventurous things and especially overcoming my fears. I was pretty much scared of everything that is why i couldn't explore my inner self. But with time as i started knowing myself , I started exploring things. That was the beginning of my self believe and now when i look at myself in the mirror I can proudly say "IS THIS ME" Just keep on reminding one thing to yourself 'never lose hope and always believe that you would be able to make through it no matter how hard it gets'

Most of my life I have been living down here. Meaning: trying to get what I want Trying to earn more Trying to get more recognition Trying to be loved, to be appreciated. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with any of the above. Whenever I manage to live up there, I am delighted beyond imagination. The days I manage to just ask: how can I serve? The days I try to give love rather then to be loved The days I am confident that the universe and God are on my side The days I am living from soul rather than from ego, are so different from the days down there when I mainly live from ego. Let us all try to connect a bit more to our soul, have more days or even hours or minutes up there, rather then down here. 

Big Change Each of us, yes, each of us, can make right now a huge difference to the world The world is unreal, filled with greed, unfair and all this racism and bigotry! But we can make it different. At least our own small world, our own small circle of friend and family We can change it from greed to kindness If only enough people participate in this new movement of bringing daily a small but significant change to our world soon the whole world will be better. It is a bit like voting: what difference does one vote makes? But if all people would say and do like this no one would vote. Actually every vote counts! So is it with our world, in which we want to do away with greed. We want a kindness revolution. What difference does one person, one kindness make? But if all people would say and do like this the world would never change Actually every person, every kindness counts! No matter how small. Let us all be part of this! Change the world NOW.

THE IMPORTANCE OF LOVE IN A BUSY WORLD I think love is an incredibly important value, especially as we get older and busier. With little time to invest in activities, we might end up taking the relationships in our life for granted. However, I was always raised to remember that the most important things in life aren't monetary or even tangible. My parents taught me that family and friendships and self-respect were the most crucial values one could have, and that by following and respecting those values, I would find more happiness in my endeavors. It is important to let those close to us know that they are loved and it is also important to love oneself. At stressful points in my life, I can rely on those values to find encouragement and inner peace, regardless of the circumstances I am in. In 5 years, as I pursue my professional goals, I know I will always treasure my loved ones and continue to strengthen the relationships in my life that form my support system.

THE NEVER ENDING SEARCH FOR KNOWLEDGE I have found that the more information we can gather in our lives enhances the quality of our lives. Education can also be called experience - the events we see around us and the situations we life through. I liken experiences to pieces of a giant life puzzle. Each piece we gather and fit into the puzzle adds clarity to our life puzzle and helps us make better decisions. Which lead to a more productive and enjoyable life.

LOOKING AT THE BRIGHT SIDE It is pretty obvious how other people's mood and feelings affect your own mood and feelings - if you are going though the day and someone that is constantly angry or sad it can make you annoyed, sad or even angry too. During high school I was going through the classic rebellious teenager phase in which I would get mad at my parents easily and just rant about them all day. I was angry and upset at the same time and it made my days and weeks pass by slowly and painfully. After some time, I was tired of always feeling bad and just focusing at the negative part of my days so I decided try to stop complaining and see if that helped me fake a smile from time to time. This probably wouldn't work for everyone in every situation but in my case, stuffing most of my complaints inside me made me realize how life gets better when you focus on the good things. I've always had a lot of energy so when I directed that to something more positive - everything...

LIVING IN THE MOMENT For me I really found mindfulness when I was studying abroad in Europe for four months. Never having been to any of the countries I visited before, everything was new to me. The buildings, the streets, the art, and the just the beauty of these old cities around me was unlike anything I had ever seen. I remember everywhere I went I tried my hardest to soak everything in and be aware of my own thoughts and feelings behind what I was experiencing. Mindfulness not only played an important role while I was in Europe, but it has also been very important to me throughout this entire year. Being in my last year at the University of Michigan, I have been trying to live in the moment whether I’m just sitting in class or having a fun night out with my friends. This really allows me to gain an appreciation for things in my life no matter the size. In the next five years when I’m working and maybe having less time to do some of the things I enjoy, I still hope to find mindfu...

One world "You may say I am a dreamer, but I am not the only one I hope some day, you will join us and the world will live as one" Do you remember these beautiful lyrics "Imagine all the people sharing all the world" Let us all join that dream. I know that your neighbors may be still angry people, perhaps envious of you or over-greedy. The world is extremely far from the "dream" The idea of unity and universal sharing has been around for >3000 years. I guess we had to achieve a certain level of technology to provide enough, enough for the whole world population. I think now is the time, that we do have enough if we do away with greed I think now is the time, the idea of sharing among everyone is taking roots I think now is the time, the tree of kindness is ready to shoot out of the ground and grow into a huge forest in which the world can get lost I think now is the time, the solidarity among people is ready to blossom. I t...

Giving A very famous saying: it is in giving that we receive. When I was younger I thought this was just a clever paradox Now I see it is so much more than, a simple but giant truth. If we selflessly give, we get immediately a superb peace of mind, so big, not even a little bit comparable to the peace of mind that we get when we receive something precious If we selflessly give we will become friends with like minded people who if we are in need will selflessly help us too.

Love and care When I think about my late mom and the superb loving care she gave us, there is a soft spot in my heart that jumps up of joy. Shortly after her death, that same spot used to weep when thinking of my mom and her fantastic loving care she gave to her children and husband at all times and especially at times when we were ill or did not feel well. Surely I miss my mother still very much, but the bitterness of grief and missing her has given way for gratefulness, for thankfulness. Somehow she has planted in my heart and soul a loving and caring seed that spouts and grows and blooms and blossoms, whenever I manage to give it space. Her care, her love lives on in my heart, in my soul. It is that care and love, that I manage to keep alive, which gives me peace of mind and job satisfaction. I am sure most of us can think back of a person caring for us in a special way when we were young. Let us just do that today. Think of the love and care we received. ...

Queen: “mama, please talk to me, I need to know everything that is happening” she said suddenly sweating. Mama Kelvin: “the truth is that we have not seen nor heard from Kelvin for months now but I know that he is fine, my heart tells me so. If something terrible had happened to him, I would have felt it in my spirit” Queen: “I don’t understand you. If this is true, why did you ask me to keep the pregnancy when I told you about it some months ago? Why did you come and marry me for a son whose whereabouts you do not even know?” Mama Kelvin: “because the child you are carrying is my grandchild and I will not allow you abort him or her just like that. My son left without telling me anything. I came here and the domestic staff told me that he travelled the next day after you had a quarrel with him. He left without leaving any money behind. I had to pay the salaries of the domestic staff and other bills with my money. When I couldn’t pay after two months, they all resigned to go in ...

My life has been rocky ever since my mom and dad got a divorce. Now I live with my dad and a horible step-mother. She was only really nice to me before she married my dad and for a little while after my mom died of liver cancer that spread. Well now I don't talk to her at all. This is all because her and her daughter that was a drug addict and stole a lot of mine and my dads stuff that was important to us and still decided to talk about me behind my back and call me mean names. So I didn't forgive them and I don't think I ever will. But for a long time now I've thought about taking my own life because I thought my life could only get worse but I thought about the life I will live when I'm older and with this I don't do it and I think would my mom want me to do this. I'm very glad that I have a little bit of family but they are important and helpful. I also am very thankful for my friends.

When I was a kid I didn't like to read. I didn't get a lot of accelerated readers point. When I was in 3rd grade I used to get in trouble that I didn’t read and I didn’t have enough points. When I was in 4th grade I wasn’t in the in the gate class for the first week and then after the first week the moved me up and pushed me because they knew I was smart. The first semester I didn’t read at all because I didn’t find a book that I was interested with, but then during winter break I picked up a book called The Series of Unfortunate Event. After a few pages I was obsessed with that book. I was reading and reading it because it was suspenseful. After winter break I took the test I got 9 out of 10. My 4th grade teacher was so happy with me because I was actually getting point and within one semester I read the whole series. I was on a race with my friend named Kelly to see who could finish the series faster. But it was a tie because we finished it on the same day. Then I started to...

One day I was out with my family and we came back from shopping and we were on our way to our car. We had to pass the street to get to our car so in front of us was a man he was taking his phone out and he accidently dropped his money he had. I was the only one who saw this so I picked up the money so I thought if I should keep it. Then I started thinking if that was me I would have liked it for the person to give it back to me so I gave him the money and I felt pretty good for doing the right thing. The Next Day my mom tells me she needs me to Babysit my little brother so I do. She comes back and says, ”thank you” and she gives me some money as a reward. My mom has always told me if you do the right thing you'll always get something in return and I totally believe her.

THE LIFE OF AN ARITST At the age of six I fell in love with art, in grade school art on Fridays was what I looked forward to each week. I remember making Christmas ornaments out of card board toilet paper rolls for the Christmas tree. All through school art was my main interest because there were no mistakes to be made, Art provided self esteem, love and a natural high like runners get. I loved staying up late drawing and listening to Johnny Cash. when doing Indian ink drawings, time stood still and I could see the ink filling the minute crevices in the paper. If that sounds like I was on drugs the answer is NO Drugs just a natural high. There was a love affair with certain brushes and pencils. In the late fifties my parents moved the family from a small town in Minn. to the big city of Seattle. No woods to explore so I would get up early in the morning and take my red wagon around to collect things that people placed on the curb for the garbage man to pick up, I found great treasur...

As a boy from a broken family, I didn’t have anything handed to me on a silver platter. At an early age I worked with my Uncle and got a paper route. I worked odd jobs because I was too young to legally work. Not because I wanted to work, but because I wanted things every child wants. For me it was a game watch. At a young age I struggled to earn enough for what I wanted. At 14 years of age, while working as a gas station attendant it hit me. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Some people pulled into that gas station with really nice cars while most did not. “I just have to do what they do!” I thought to myself. That day I made a commitment to give my children a better childhood than myself. To ensure they wouldn’t have to struggle. Two years later, and finally a valid response. A man named Mike in a charcoal gray Jaguar gave me the answer I needed. Mike said “I own a business that sells supplies to other businesses. I’m an entrepreneur.” He also suggested a book to start me out. The...

From where comes love? Loving parents? Loving spouses? Loving children? Loving grandchildren? Loving friends? Perhaps most of all from within? The first love we experience as children is from our parents. Not all parents are equally good at giving love to their children. But in the course of time, we somehow needed to love our children. Human children are born so small and so immature (mainly because of the size of our heads, the scientists will tell us), that we need to give them a nurturing love, not for a few months, not for a year but for many years, in order for them to be able to survive and continue the human existence. So there is definitely a positive selection of children of loving parents over the centuries. Single parents definitely have much harder time getting their children to grow up, so love for a spouse is important as well to let our children grow up to adulthood. Scientists will point happily out that people with a loving heart for a spouse, will have ...

Conspiracy ? I have been encountering quite some conspiracy theories about a huge variety of things. I have read them and while some of them make some sense, others are very clearly to be taken with huge pinch of salt. Most of these things however are so far out of our control, that we should not allow these truths or half truths or falsehoods, to disturb our current life. I think it is a good thing to have some doubts. I am not sure about the original version of the stories, I am not sure about the truth of the conspiracy theories. Whatever the truth about many of these 'facts' on which people have created conspiracy theories, the facts seem to be not flattering humanity. We are aware that there is still a lot abuse of power going on this world. We are aware that still so many governments are extremely corrupt ALL over the world. We are aware that justice is far from being served in many, many places. Let us face that. We do not have to let this wickednes...

I wanted to write something sweet and lovely And thought about chocolate first. Sweet and lovely! 😃 But I do not want to write about chocolate. I love it but I wanted to write something a bit deeper. About the good that is sitting in the core of our being. There is something good sitting there. Can you feel it? Do you agree? Every human being has something good inside. But there is something more. That something good, is not just sitting there.It is moving around and, no matter how small or how big already, it is eager to expand. It has the huge potential to expand exponentially with time And grow into something really big and wonderful. All we need to do is give it some attention Give it some space and tune a bit into it And allow it to grow, bit by bit, at first And then, the more we enjoy the growth of the good inside, We can let it grow exponentially into something that is not just good, but truly wonderful. And similarly to that something good that sits i...

I was born in a poor family, 8 siblings, and life was "hand-to-mouth". If I recall my family experience, I would say each day was a challenge to keep our stomachs filled. At 18, I gave up a chance to study at a local university. I started working as a salesman because I knew it paid high returns for if I could work harder. I worked for Olivetti selling manual and electric typewriters, themes-copiers and calculators. I put in a lot if time and efforts to learn the products so that I could demonstrate better. Every morning I carried a manual typewriter and shouldered an electric one, from the office to my "discreet" about 2 miles away. I have to carry them because (1) it took very long to arrange a demo unit thru the office protocol, and (2) I was motivated to sell with my sweat and tears. The next 20 years I worked harder than graduate workers because jobs for non-graduates were scarce and low with pays. I understand the reasons I have to work this hard for ...

Good or bad Our notion of what is good or bad is sometimes flawed. I think all of us have memories of apparently bad events, about which we were frustrated, the moment they happened, but about which we are now very happy that they happened; because with hindsight, we can see the huge benefits they brought in our life. There may be also events that have appeared initially as very good, but afterwards it turned out that there were no blessings in those events. Now there are events that seem so extremely bad that our human mind cannot possible conceive that they may be anything else than bad. For example a tsunami costing hundreds of thousands of lives. No one likes a tsunami. No one can see a good thing in it. Perhaps three hundred years from now, people may understand why it had to happen, but for now we see it all as a huge mishap. Scientists who have a certain arrogance, see this as a proof that a good and almighty God cannot exist. Before agreeing with their ar...

My twin brother and I were raised by our grandparents. They have taught us so many things about life, but the one thing that has always stuck with me is to always be humble and kind no matter what you do in life. My grandpa always told us no matter where life leads you, always remember your values and where you came from. He was a colonel in the Air Force for 20 years, and then became a lawyer and owned his own law firm for another 20 years. Today, at age 83, he is a cashier at Walmart and you would never know what all he has done because he is that humble. People go to his register to see him because he always puts a smile on their face. He has taught us that it doesn't matter what you do or have done, it's about who you are and your character. He really does teach by example.